“Love is a verb”
A friend of mine recently went through a terrible divorce. (Aren’t they all) Her husband had the “seven year itch” as it’s called. He had met someone new and was experiencing the feelings of a new “love” as he described it. He wanted to feel those euphoric feelings you have when you first get involved with someone. The problem is it doesn’t last. Not with that person or the next. Some people go through life like this. They never evolve past the initial “crush”. This is because love is not just a feeling. Love is a day to day commitment you make with another person regardless of how you feel each day. When our world is ruled by feelings it is a disaster. We make goals and commit to actions and people to reach our goals. If your goal is not to have a long term commitment then you should be upfront and let your potential partners know. The real problem is though without ever experiencing the long term relationship and it’s ups and downs you will not grow as a person. You will go through life skimming the surface but never diving down to feel the bottom. When you love someone past the initial euphoria stage you learn to do the little things each day to show them you care. This is not just with your spouse but your entire family. You get joy from doing small acts to show your love each day. This morning I wasn’t feeling the love for my five year old who often wakes up at five a.m. while the rest of the kids sleep soundly. He also told me he was starving and wanted an egg before I even got some caffeine in my system. Somehow I managed to make an “i heart egg” as we call them for him. I watched him eat his egg and he had a big grin on his face and I thought to myself…Love is a verb!